10 Signs You’re More Friends Than Lovers

Any self-aware married woman knows it’s totally natural for the honeymoon stage to wear off. The years go by, the tint on your rose-colored glasses fades, and you and your husband may no longer want to jump each other’s bones every month, let alone every night. And that’s okay, because you’ve probably entered a new stage — the one where you’re best friends to lovers (as you probably were all along, underneath all that fizzing sexual tension). To be clear: Being BFFs with your guy is not a bad thing. In fact, it’s healthy. But be careful when that buddy-ness starts to define your dynamic, far more than the romantic, sexy feelings do.

“When we settle in and get comfy in a relationship, the uncertainty and mystery is replaced with security,” says Jamie Turndorf, Ph.D., author of Kiss Your Fights Goodbye. “A great relationship provides the warmth of a strong connection, trust, and love that comes with commitment and time.”

That said, sometimes security can feel, well, a little boring. “Life is predictable…the sheer tedium of it all can wear us down,” says couples therapist Linda Carroll in her book Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. “The biggest challenge of the blahs is not to blame our partner for the way we feel. Instead, we need to look for ways to accept the ordinariness of life, even as we respect the mind’s natural craving for stimuli. The next challenge is to consider some steps we might take to add some healthy pizzazz to our daily grind — and then try out a few of them.”

14 Predictable But Apparently Common Lies Men Tell Women

Oh boy, men are getting a bad rap today in the world of Twitter. Hey guys, it appears your pants are on fire.

Sorry buddy, your secret is out. But at least you’re still hot.

Today, tweets are flying on trending topic #LiesMenTellWomen and can I just say, OUCH! They don’t make men sound very kind or very original. There were a lot of repeats, so I tried to sum up the top lies men tell I saw most often. Not all guys are liars, but the ones that are apparently use these lines.

Red States Top List for Those Looking for Interracial Love

RENO – As per usual, the 2012 election heats up to a frenzy as the country is divided between red and blue states, conservative and liberal. But the personal may not always be the political, based on recent data released by InterracialDating.com, an online dating service that specializes in connecting people who choose “character above color.” It turns out that some of the reddest of red states have the highest number seeking interracial relationships. Ten out of the site’s top 20 states with the most populous members have historically voted Republican over the past five presidential elections.

States like Texas , Georgia , Tennessee , Alabama , South Carolina , Louisiana and Indiana historically vote Republican and tend to be socially conservative–not exactly fertile ground for people openly and un-apologetically stating their non-conformist dating preferences. Most of these states vehemently opposed interracial marriage during the riotous Civil Rights era, with Alabama , the last holdout, formally legalizing it as late as the year 2000. “The high interest in interracial dating might be a surprise because of a perceived disapproval of interracial relationships in the Deep South where racial tensions seem deeply ingrained in the psyche and culture of the people who live there,” says Christelyn D. Karazin, co-author of “Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed,” and publisher for the best cities for interracial dating blog, Beyond Black & White.

Karazin recently appeared on CNN’s “HLN Weekend Express with Natasha Curry ” discussing historically “swirl-friendly” areas most accepting of interracial couples. Predictably, these places were along typically liberal coastal cities like Los Angeles , New York , and Seattle with pockets of swirl-friendly places in the Midwest and the western portion of Texas.So are people in red states too socially conservative to widely accept interracial relationships?